Andy Walker
A key part of any funeral is an event that celebrates and memorializes the person who has died.
The events have many names and come in formal and informal formats. They can be solemn or a have an upbeat celebration. They can also be secular or religious. They can also be held before a burial or cremation or afterwards. There are many variations and choices. Here is a summary of the most common funeral ceremonies and how they compare.
In this collection of articles, we have provided information that will help you choose your own way of remembering your loved one and celebrating their life.
When someone dies, you may be invited to attend their funeral or their memorial.
Sometimes it is not clear what the difference is. In this memorial vs funeral article, we'll define each end-of-life event and explain the difference.
A funeral visitation or viewing is a funeral event where attendees greet the deceased person's family and offer condolences. The body is typically present in an open or closed casket. Learn more about funeral visitations and viewings and the etiquette around attending them.
One of the increasingly common funeral events is a celebration of life. This less formal and often upbeat events is a gathering of friends and family and sometimes work colleagues to celebrate the life of a person close to them who has died. The wonderful thing about this kind of funeral event is that it focuses on the person's life and time spend with attendees, including reminiscences and cherished memories. Learn more about what a celebration of life event is and how to organize one. Plus read how to honour a loved one after cremation.
In the context of a funeral, a repast is a reception with food and drink provided after a funeral service. Some people refer to it as a repass, but a repass and repast is the same thing. Learn more about a repast here.
A wake is a funeral event that was traditionally held to watch over a deceased person's body until they were buried. Today a wake is a term used to refer to a funeral gathering or reception sometimes in connection to a visitation or viewing of the person that has died. Learn more here.
This graveside funeral event is to put the remains of a person who has died to rest, usually in a grave, mausoleum or columbarium. Read more about interments.
A key component of a funeral or celebration of life is readings, prayers, oral recitals and poems read by mourners and funeral attendees. Here are severla resources we have published to help you choose a soulful, celebratory or memorial reading at an event you are attending or organizing:
1) Poems & Passages for Secular Funeral or Memorial
2) Best Bible Verses for Funerals and Ash-scattering Ceremonies
It is common for family or friends to sometimes speak at a funeral to memorialize the deceased person in a short, and heartfelt speech in front of the gathering. This can be delivered at a church or other religious places of worship as well as a secular event commonly held at a funeral home's chapel. Eulogies can be happy or sad, or a mix of both. They can include stories and anecdotes. And they can be brief or run a bit longer for 10 to 15 minutes. Here is how to write a eulogy and here is why you should consider writing your own eulogy.
There are a variety of social norms that dictate what people should do, and say at a funeral, and even how to dress. In these articles we cover much of these kinds of topics:
Basic funeral etiquette tips
What to say at a funeral or when someone dies
What to wear at a funeral
What to say to a grieving friend when someone dies
What color and type flowers should be chosen for a funeral?
Here is a collection of funeral traditions and rituals from around the world that are quite beautiful and inspiring. Click to read.